I received an email from a friend who was quite angry at another person. At the end of the email she quoted Abraham Lincoln: “If you wrestle with greased pigs, you both will get dirty but the pig will enjoy it.” I thought about the truth of this statement, but I want to take it a step further. If you continue to think about the greased pig, you are still getting dirty and the pig has already moved on!
Challenging people show up in our lives, and when we constantly think about the situation, we perpetuate the hurt or struggle. Even if you feel you are absolutely in the right, your mind is still in the pen with the pig, not where your feet are planted. The answer is simple, but not so easy. Anchor yourself back to the present moment.
The next time you find yourself thinking about a challenging person:
- Notice your thoughts.
- Ask yourself- Do I really want to stay in the mud? Be honest with yourself and if your answer is yes, keep wrestling.
- If your answer is no, wipe the mud off your feet.
- Take a few slow, deep breaths.
- Feel your feet on the floor and slowly walk out of the pen and as you walk continue to feel your feet connecting to the floor.
This is simple, but quite effective. Remember, what you wrestle with is your choice. Be patient with yourself- this takes practice and believe me, you will get plenty of opportunities!