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Splash Into Calm Book Launch: Enjoy Each Moment

Posted by Ellen Sichel on November 1, 2012

This evening I have planned my formal book launch of Splash Into Calm. I have prepared, delegated, and today there are a few last minute details to be accomplished. After that, all I can do is to let go of the results and enjoy the event.

This is easier said than done. I will track back in my book to a relevant chapter from July—the chapter on worry and grace. The chapter focus is on worry, even for the enjoyable events. Below is an excerpt:

We not only worry when hosting an event, but also with each and every plan and person with whom we are involved. Worry envelops us and it spills out into our relationships. “What will happen if my two-year-old doesn’t get into the best preschool? I know it will affect his/her growth and future college options!” I enjoyed the perspective of comedian Tina Fey in her book Bossypants: “My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.” Yes, worry has a definite spiral, right down to our complexions!

This is a common occurrence. We are so busy worrying that every detail will go as planned that we are not present for the event. Letting go of the results is possible when we remain in the present moment. Tonight, that is will be my focus. Embracing each moment and experiencing the support and interest in Splash Into Calm. I will let you know how it goes!

Let me know in the comments below how you deal with worry. Does it get in the way of your enjoyment?

Tags: calm, focus, letting go, worry

Posted in: A Calm Perspective

Child Anxiety Helped by Mindful-Based Stress Reduction

Posted by Ellen Sichel on August 17, 2011

Child Anxiety Can be a Big Issue: Fears and worry seen in kids today.

The Atlanta Journal Constitution Living Section, August 8 2011 article focuses on the rising stress symptoms seen in children of all ages.

Psychologists are giving symptoms serious attention as anxiety is causing panic attacks and other symptoms.

The use of Mindfulness Based stress-reduction programs including Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy has helped children see clearly what is happening in the present, where choices can be made to not react emotionally. The practices include breath, movement, activities, touching, tasting, smelling seeing and listening.

More and more the medical community is advocating the use of Mindfully Based stress-reduction practices to help a multitude of conditions.

The work of Custom Calm targets anxiety caused by consequences of stress, pain and illness using the proactive approach of Mindfully Based stress-reduction practices, The individual is supported and empowered to take charge of their reactions, which immediately lowers stress and anxiety.

Tags: breath, child anxiety, empowerment, fear, lower stress, mindfully based stress reduction, stress, worry

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Worry or Grace: Which is it Today?

Posted by Ellen Sichel on July 29, 2011

In his book, The sacred art of Lovingkindness, Rabbi Rami Shapiro explores worry and grace.

He says that all that matters is this moment and how you engage it. There are two ways to engage this moment: with grace or with worry. He goes on to say that the opposite of grace is your own anxiety.

Grace is defined as: Seemingly effortless beauty or charm of movement, form, or proportion.
Anxiety is defined as: A state of uneasiness and apprehension, as about future uncertainties.

You experience anxiety when your mind is worried about the future or regret over the past.

When you are in the present moment, you open the door for grace.

Living in grace is effortless, having movement and form. The struggle is not there and an ease and calm replaces it. That is an exquisite way to live.

Breath, meditation, and other mindfulness practices bring you back to the present moment and they are accessible and easy to do.

Let me know in the comments below how you feel when you are in the moment and what happens to your state when you are in worry.

Tags: anxiety, calm, ease, grace, mindfulness, regret, worry

Posted in: A Calm Perspective