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Are You the Problem or Solution?

Posted by Ellen Sichel on July 8, 2011

There is a saying in Twelve Step Recovery Programs:

If I am not the problem, there is no solution. In other words, the only one you can change is YOU.

That simple sentence is very freeing. It takes others out of the equation and puts the responsibility for your state of mind in your hands.

Even if someone has wronged you, it is up to you to keep your side of the street clean- it might be as simple as a change in attitude. This shifts the power others have over you and places it in your hands.

There is great empowerment in living this way. You will have less stress and pain. You have a choice of what you want to focus on-the problem or the solution.

When you choose to live in the solution, you will have more stamina and clarity to enjoy and participate in your life each moment.

Do you live in the problem or solution?

Let me know in the comments below how you have shifted into the solution. If you are struggling in the problem, what do you think is getting in the way?

Tags: attitude, change, problem, responsibility, solution, state of mind, twelve Step recovery

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April Fool’s Day: Lighten up!

Posted by Ellen Sichel on April 1, 2011

What is the significance of April Fool’s Day?

It began in the 1500’s in France with the change of New Years Day from the week ending April 1 to January 1. With the slow communication in those days, many did not know until years later and others refused to acknowledge the change. Those people were labeled fools and thus began the tradition of prank playing. Many countries celebrate this day and it marks the onset of Spring.

What is it that so many of us find appealing about playing a joke on someone?

It is an opportunity to lighten up and play.

We tend to take things so seriously that we need an excuse to get a bit silly. We live with chronic deadlines, pressures and responsibility and we forget how to have simple fun. We plan vacations, wait for the weekends to lighten up a bit, but soon revert back to our stress filled life.

Take time each day to be silly and playful. Sing, laugh, joke, and be light-hearted without concern about how you look. You will be amazed how refreshed you feel.

Are you ready to be playful each day?