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Valentines Day: Cultivate Loving Kindness

Loving Kindness is something that is easy for those we deeply care for, but more challenging for difficult relationships.  Our feelings toward others have an impact on our state of mind and how we perceive and react to the world around us.  There are times when a loved one is ill and we need a way to get some relief from worry and fear.

Whatever the situation, Loving Kindness is the antidote for all relationships, good or bad.

It needs to be cultivated and the practice of Metta is one powerful practice to help.  Metta means friend and gentle, and the practice embodies them both.

It is a meditation that consists of repeating a series of simple phrases with as much presence as possible.  There are many phrases that can be used.  The key is that you begin with yourself.  It is hard to wish for others what you do not want for yourself.

Here are some phrases you can begin with or you can find others that you like better.

  • May I (he, she or they) be happy.
  • May I (he, she or they) know peace.
  • May I (he, she or they) be safe and protected from inner and outer harm.
  • May I (he, she or they) be free from suffering.

Try this every day for a few minutes and let me know in the comments below how it works.

 

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It’s Just a Banana!

It’s just a banana!


Years ago, as my husband, daughter and I were driving home from her art class, as we went under an overpass we heard a loud thump.  Something had hit our car, splattered and cracked our windshield.

As we pulled over, saw something had mashed and were speculating about what could possibly cause that kind of damage.  I speculated; “it might have been a cantaloupe or watermelon to do that kind of damage”.

My daughter took a look and came back reporting that it was a banana!

I was outraged that someone purposely threw a banana, (probably frozen) on our car!

After some time reacting, talking about the velocity, I began to ponder what the message was.  Following a few moments of contemplation,  I announced that it was probably a sign for us to slow down and take things easy.

With this, my wise husband replied:  “Maybe it was just a banana!”

I still smile at this as I see the truth in how complicated the mind makes things.  It takes us out of the here and now.  So from time to time, when I get too esoteric, my husband will remind me; maybe it’s just a banana…

 

Posted in: A Calm Perspective

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