Your mind has a life of its own and is the culprit of much frustration and physical tension.
We have previously explored three attitudes, that when cultivated will help calm agitated thoughts.
- Friendliness toward the happy.
- Compassion for the unhappy.
- Delight in the virtuous.
The 4th attitude is what I perceive as the most challenging: Disregard toward the wicked.
When we run into people that are rude or mean, we usually get our guard up and judge or get angry.
To retain our undisturbed state:
- Remember that you have had times when your behavior was inappropriate and harmful.
- Do not take the persons behavior personally, even it is directed toward you. Keeping this distance helps you ignore the behavior of others which will make your life much more peaceful.
- Their behavior might not change, but your response makes all the difference to your well- being.
Give this a try next time you encounter someone who is behaving cruelly or inappropriately. Let me know in the comments below how your state was and if you were able to make the shift to disregard their behavior.
Picture this: You just finished your centering practices and you feel peaceful and calm. There is nothing you want- you are content.
You join your family and the kids are yelling, the dog is barking and your significant other is looking for the keys- puff…your serenity is gone in an instant!
There is a phrase from one yoga text:
Lokanandah Samadhi- Sukham : In every bit of knowledge the yogi experiences the delight of I- Consciousness, and there is transmission of this experience to those who come in contact with him. The bliss continues in every location and every situation.
In other words, bring inner peace into your relationships with everyone and everything. All of yoga’s practices are designed to help you still your mind to access your inner solid calm center.
As you practice, you will embody the knowing that you are more than your body and you are more than your mind.
You will experience your daily living with grounded presence weaving in the sublime with the mundane, even in the chaos that surrounds you.
Let me know in the comments below your experience with maintaining your calm in the midst of life. What works for you?