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Posted by Ellen Sichel on October 3, 2011

In Thursday’s blog I spoke about how our thoughts create reality.

It is challenging to change our mindset when we are conditioned to think in a certain way. It’s the glass half empty-half full scenario, and much of what our mind focuses stems from habit.

It does not take long to create a new habit, but you must have the desire to change.

Try this:

Notice your thoughts and if they are negative take a slow inhale and easy exhale

If this has not stopped the thought, focus on your breath until your mind quiets down.

Remember some event that was pleasant for you and experience the feelings that went along with it.

Stay with those feelings as your breathe in and out.

Now, notice your state.

If you begin to revert back to negativity, ask yourself: Which feeling do I want to perpetuate?

Give this a try and let me know in the comments below if this helped. If it did not, what do you think got in your way?

Create Your Own Reality

Posted by Ellen Sichel on September 29, 2011

I was having a conversation with an elder and he told me that he was often thinking about past events that impacted his life. He told me few stories and they were all about wrongs that he felt were done to him.

This man has had a wonderful long life with so many gifts, yet his focus is on the negative events.

I asked him: If it was painful when it happened years back, why would you want to continue to re- live the experience over and over again. It wasn’t fun the first time!

We all have experienced unpleasant situations and often we focus on and remember them more than the pleasant ones. Our negative experiences stem from either something that was done to us, something that we did, or something that we had no control over. We perpetuate whatever feelings we had and bring them into the present day.

Our reality is created by our mind.

If we would focus on the uplifting and happy events, we would live with more gratitude.This would bubble over into our relationships and experiences, helping us to stay present in the moment, fully participating in our daily life. We could live with my peace, ease and joy.

It's our choice.

What do you want your focus to be today? Let me know in the comments below.

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