Right or Happy: Your Choice

We have all been in arguments, disagreements and confrontations either with family, friends or work.  There are times when it was clearly the fault of the other as their conduct was inappropriate, causing unnecessary stress and pain.

We review the event, complain about it to others and continue to stew over the fact that we have every right to be angry. There is a need for others to know that we are correct, so we hold onto the wrong done to us.

Each time you complain to others you are creating stress in yourself.  The person you are complaining about just fine!  You are perpetuating the damage done because of the need to prove yourself right and your happiness is being compromised.

As time goes on, it comes down to this simple question:

Would you rather be right or happy? The good news is this:  It's your choice.

Let me know in the comments below if you are able to let go of being right.  If you cannot, what do you think get's in the way?

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Calm Your Mind: Attitude #1

Helping the mind remain calm and undisturbed is a lifelong practice. Often our thoughts are agitated from our reactions to other people.

A chapter in the yoga texts focuses on four categories of people and how cultivating certain attitudes will help.

Attitude  #1:

Cultivate Friendliness toward the happy.

When someone gets something that they are excited about it, jealousy can set in.  This only disturbs you, especially if you want what they have attained.

A shift in attitude to open up to another persons happiness can fill you with joy as well as leave you feeling calm and centered.

Next time your feel yourself feeling uneasy around someone’s happiness, take a breath and shift your thoughts.

Give this a try and in the comments below, let me know what happened.  If you were unable to be open to someone's happiness, what do you think got in the way?

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