Publishing New Book on Calm Living

It has finally happened!  I am finishing up my book and will be at print in the next few weeks.  I wrote a book because I see the need for practical help with stress.

The book is part of what I hope to be a series called Custom Calm Chronicles and the first book is:  Splash Into Calm. 

There seems to be a myth that living a calm life means “uneventful” or “chilled out”, and that is far from the truth.

What calm living gives you the ability to enjoy increased stamina, vitality, clarity and ease in daily life.  For those who enjoy living a full, busy life, then you will be able to enhance this lifestyle you already have with increased energy to do the things you love doing.

The book is filled with different perspectives and techniques geared toward quickly get centered.  It is not that you will not have stress in your life, but you will know how to neutralize its effects.  The best part is that it is practical, so there is no big time commitment.  I have set it up in monthly themes to make it easy.

Short and simple is greatly needed.  That is why I keep my posts short.  In our busy lives we do not have the time, so why not quickly get to the point?  Once I am at print, look forward to hearing much more about it.

One final thought; if I can find my calm center, than anyone can do it!

Let me know in the comments below what you do to come back to center when you get stressed. 

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Emotions: Do You Have Them or Do They Have You?

“When you feel yourself in the grip of an emotion such as jealousy or anger or sorrow…take a step back…You can allow the emotion to run through you without causing negative thoughts or actions.”  Gary Zukov

Emotions are part of human nature and they meant to be felt.  The problem arises when we hold onto emotions and become them.

We express how we feel as “I am angry or I am sad”, rather than “I feel angry or I feel sad”.  There is a marked difference between the two.  If you are the emotion, then you have taken on the emotion live in reaction, rather than feeling it and moving on.

When you take a step back and view the situation without layering your emotions and perceptions, then the emotion no longer will have a grip on you.

 You can see with greater clarity and bring yourself back to the here and now.

Let me know in the comments below what your experience has been.  Are you able to take a step back from your emotions, or do you get caught up in them?

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Trick or Treat? Find out in 5 Steps.

When I hear the phrase trick or treat, it reminds me of how we are often the mind plays tricks on us.

We see through the filters from our personal history, clouding what is really in front of us. Our reactions and decisions are based on this information.

It takes practice to really see what is happening beyond the stories of the mind and when we can do this, we can live with more clarity and ease.

Give this a try:

  1. Look at an unusual object
  2. Say what your immediate perception of the object is (it might remind you of something).
  3. Now, take a look at the object from all angles.
  4. Report what you see without any opinions- just report what is actually in front of you.
  5. Notice what the difference was in your original report and what is actually in front of you.

Let me know in the comments below what you noticed.  Was your original report different?  How do you think you can use this in your daily life?

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Stuck in our Behavior

Definition of Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.

If we are hammering something and we continue to smack our hand, we would change how we are hammering, or would we???

In our relationships we do the same thing.  Our approach may not get the results we are wanting, yet we continue to employ them.  It is difficult to change how and what we do, even when it hurts us and others.  This seems to be human nature, and it is not effective.

What happens is our mind gets stuck in our own perceptions of how things should be, leaving no room for other possibilities.  It becomes a good, bad, right or wrong judgment and we perpetuate our behavior.

When we are able to quite our minds we can take a step back and see with more clarity.  Only then do we have a choice to be open and receptive to other options.

Are you stuck in insanity in your life?  Let me know in the comments below.

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