angry Archives - Custom Calm

Posted by Ellen Sichel on March 14, 2012

We have all been in arguments, disagreements and confrontations either with family, friends or work. There are times when it was clearly the fault of the other as their conduct was inappropriate, causing unnecessary stress and pain.

We review the event, complain about it to others and continue to stew over the fact that we have every right to be angry. There is a need for others to know that we are correct, so we hold onto the wrong done to us.

Each time you complain to others you are creating stress in yourself. The person you are complaining about just fine! You are perpetuating the damage done because of the need to prove yourself right and your happiness is being compromised.

As time goes on, it comes down to this simple question:

Would you rather be right or happy? The good news is this: It's your choice.

Let me know in the comments below if you are able to let go of being right. If you cannot, what do you think get's in the way?

1 Solution to Caregiving Challanges

Posted by Ellen Sichel on January 16, 2012

Lately I have spoken with many who are caring for a sick loved one or aging parent. There is one thing that they all have in common: They deeply care and love the one who is struggling.

We want to fix the situation or make them see how they can help themselves, with no avail. We wonder why they will not do what they need to do- we know if they did, they would feel some relief. We get frustrated, angry, depleted and sad and try again and again to get them to do what is needed.

The one thing we need to remember is that we are absolutely Powerless over the other person.

It is their life and their path and nothing we do or say will change them. The only thing we can do is to remember that we are powerless and once we know this, we can let go of what we want them to do, lighten up and meet them where they are at. Your shift in attitude will empower you and your relationships.

Let me know in the comments below how realizing you are powerlessness can help you.

Tags: angry, attitude, caregiver, depleted, elder parents, empowerment, frustrated, powerlessness

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Right or Happy: Your Choice

1 Solution to Caregiving Challanges