Get this: It’s not your chronic illness or chronic pain that’s causing you discomfort.

And that’s great news.

Most people with chronic pain or illness put their lives on hold. They say things like:

“I used to be a social butterfly, but now I can barely do anything more than my job.”

“All I do all day is deal with my illness.”

“I have no energy to do what I love anymore.”

“My relationships are no fun anymore…we’re always talking about the illness.”

“I’m so stressed all the time, I’m not sleeping well (and have chronic headaches).”

“I try to support those dealing with illness and seem to be stuck in the problem.”

I get it.

I have lived with chronic pain and illness for most of my life (and been a caregiver myself). But so much of what I tried couldn’t sustain me. It helped for an hour or two, but was not practical enough to really make a difference.

What I came to was this:

I needed to quit trying to escape and find a new way to live my life. Because the pain or the illness wasn’t going to go away; I had to change the way I related to it. For example, learning how to let go of the judgment, and be with what is. (This may sound like granola B.S., but it’s actually steeped in evidence – and it works.)

So now I work with people who are dealing with chronic illness or pain and teach them how to get back to living with a sense of calm, control, and play in life. Real, practical skills that help anytime, anywhere – at work, in a car, at the doctor, when having a challenging conversation, at the airport, and even at the circus – when I say anywhere, I mean anywhere!

I am here to bust you on:

The fight, the frustration, the wanting things to be different, the waiting for things to improve mindset. I’m here to teach you how to thrive, no matter what is happening. All it takes is a decision: Do you want to live in reaction to your illness (or your caregiving responsibilities), or do you want to live?

Let’s start now and go from Chaos to Calm.

What’s so important about going from Chaos to Calm? Let me give you a mundane example: You are feeling rather tired and mulling along at your own pace. Your partner says something that rubs you the wrong way (it might even be a strange look.) Poof! You become angry and before you know it, you lash out. You were blindsided and did not know what hit you. The spiral begins. You become irritable, your body tightens, and you feel worse than you did before. You need something practical to quickly put on the brakes.

So that’s what calm to chaos looks like, and most of us are experts at that. I want to help you to do the exact opposite. I’ll show you how to get out of chaos — or learn to avert it altogether — in my simple guide, “From Chaos to Calm in 30 Seconds.” Just enter your email address in the box below and click on Subscribe.